Rid Yourself of Negative Dialogue
We often take what we say and think for granted without really considering how powerful our words are. Negative dialogue has the ability to halt all progress and to build self-doubt and loathing. On the other hand, positive internal dialogue can help us achieve our wildest dreams, even Olympic gold – if that’s what we put our mind to.
Do you have an unhelpful internal dialogue running? This might take the form of a nasty little voice that whispers in your ear, taking up your valuable brain space, damaging your confidence and your ability to proceed on a number of levels. And perhaps its your own voice you hear, or that of a parent, teacher, boss or lover. It doesn’t really matter whom the voice belongs to, but negative internal dialogue can really disarm. We don’t need to hear ‘you are not good enough’, ‘that you’re bound to fail’ or ‘you are not deserving’ when embarking on a course of action. Neither is it good for us to hear that we can get away with anything, because ‘we’re extra special’.
Clearly what we need is balance. So what can we do to achieve harmony and get rid of these dreadful internal scripts? Removal might take time and effort, but it is worth it. After all, we all need to grow and develop and we can’t allow negative dialogues getting in the way of what we want to achieve in life.
So, there are a number of things that you can do:
1. I heard a good tip recently about imagining these voices being distorted or warped in some way, so that they sound utterly ridiculous. Perhaps imagine the voice now coming from a cartoon character. So instead of hearing your inner critical parent saying ‘you are not good enough’, hear Donald Duck saying those words, or some other similar character. Also try repositioning the direction from which you hear this internal voice. If you hear it from the left side of your head, now imagine that it is speaking from the right. You might find that this simple perceived shift of direction robs the unwanted internal dialogue of power.
2. Alternatively, invoke the trusty Violet Flame to transform and clear those thoughts away. See yourself surrounded by the Violet Flame, which transmutes the negative into the positive. See this Violet Flame surrounding you, whenever that voice starts.
3. Get yourself comfortable, perhaps lying down in a meditative state. Imagine a light source above you, washing you with radiant, transformative energy. Visualise this column gently loosening and washing away those negative thoughts for good. See and accept that the negative internal dialogue is washed into the ground to be transformed by Mother Earth. Next imagine this wonderful healing light energy filling you up with positive energy. Allow yourself to be so fully topped up, that now only positive words will flourish inside you, enabling you to do what you want to do or be who you want to be.
4. Make good use of the positive power of words here, with affirmations. Once you’ve cleared yourself, try creating an affirmation that works for you. An affirmation is a phrase that you repeat over and over again, mantra-like, perhaps several times a day, for a given period of time – maybe a week, maybe more. You’ll know what seems right for you. As you say the affirmation, imagine how you would feel should the affirmation be true.
Affirmations need to be stated in the present (not the future) as if what you want has already happened. They should also be focused on the positive. So for example, you might want to say:
‘I am ready an open to financial abundance. I am surrounded by great job offers’ rather than ‘I wish to get rid of debt and get off benefits’
or ‘I am worthy of love and respect and I am open to a loving, fulfilling relationship. I attract my perfect partner to me now’ rather ‘I no longer wish to feel unappreciated and I want to meet a great partner very soon’
Or simply: ‘I attract every type of abundance into my life. I am fulfilled, safe and happy’
Good luck then and use those words well. Step into your power.